How to Build a Self Love Routine That Changes Everything

Have you considered what it really means to put yourself first? I mean, genuinely, unapologetically prioritizing your own well-being? If you’re like me, you find it too easy to put yourself on the back burner while juggling life, work, and relationships.

I think we do it because we see “self love” as something that’s a luxury, time-consuming, and just one more thing to add to our to-do list, like a long bath or a spa day. But self love is more than that. It’s learning to be kind to yourself, to be you’re own best friend. It’s getting rid of stress before it “gets” you. Sure, self love involves routines to take care of our bodies the best that we can, but it also includes caring for our mental health and emotions.

As you’ve probably heard us say, “Self love isn’t a luxury. It’s essential. You need to ensure that your own cup is full so you can help others & thrive throughout the day.”

Here are our best tips for building a self love routine with structure that helps you develop habits that you can stick with. It’s the foundation for the life you love.

The Power of a Consistent Routine

Here’s the thing about self love – it’s not a one-and-done deal. You build it over time, and your routine is the scaffolding that helps you do that. Think of it like brushing your teeth; you don’t skip it because it’s become part of your daily rhythm. The same goes for self love habits.

When you create a routine, those habits eventually become second nature which makes staying consistent easier, even on tough days.

Morning Rituals to Begin Your Day with Love

How you start your day sets the tone for everything that follows. Instead of diving into your to-do list or scrolling through your phone, spend a few minutes on yourself. Here’s a few small suggestions:

Affirmations: Try saying something like, “I am worthy of love and care.” It might feel awkward initially, but trust me, it’s powerful.

Gratitude: Write down one thing you’re grateful for. It can be simple or as thought-provoking as you want.

Gentle Movement: A quick stretch or a few deep breaths work wonders for putting you in a good mood.

Nourishment: Make yourself a breakfast that is good for your body, not a grab & go goodie with high sugar and calories, and certainly don’t skip it altogether. Eating a healthy morning meal is like giving “future you” a big hug.

Taking Care of Your Body is Showing Yourself Love & Respect

Think of your body as your lifelong partner. It’s been with you through everything – thick & thin. So treating it with kindness is a powerful act of self love. This doesn’t mean you have to overhaul your entire lifestyle overnight. Small, intentional choices add up.

Sleep: Are you getting enough? Aim for 7-9 hours and create a bedtime routine that helps you wind down.

Hydration: Keep water nearby throughout the day. Your body will thank you.

Food: Focus on balance. Add in more fruits, veggies, and whole foods that make you feel energized.

Movement: Forget punishing workouts. Find ways to move that feel joyful, whether it’s dancing, yoga, or a walk in nature. Happiness is important to your mental health & to creating a structured routine you can follow.

Nurturing Your Mind and Emotions

Self love isn’t just about your physical well-being; it’s also about your inner world. Building habits that nourish your mental and emotional health is just as important.

Journaling: Take a few minutes to write about your feelings, dreams, or even the challenges you’re facing. It’s like having a heart-to-heart talk with yourself.

Mindfulness: Spend time in the present moment. Try meditation, deep breathing, or simply quieting your thoughts about the past or worries of the future. Focus on now.

Creative Outlets: Paint, knit, bake, garden-anything that lights you up inside and doesn’t involve a screen.

Gratitude Practice: Move beyond your morning gratitude and keep it going throughout the day. Reflect on moments that made you smile and be thankful.

Self-reflection Is The Key To Growth

How well do you know yourself? Self-reflection is peeling back the layers to discover who you really are beneath it all. With reflection, you understand your needs, set meaningful goals, and align your routine with what matters most to you. Try these ideas:

Weekly Check-Ins: Spend a few minutes on the weekend reviewing your week. What went well? What felt off? What might you need to apologize for?

Intention Setting: Before starting a new month or week, jot down your intentions. What do you want to focus on? Is there a habit you want to change? A goal you’re pursuing?

Mindful Journaling: Ask yourself questions like, “What do I need right now?” or “What’s holding me back from being my best?”

Flexibility Is The Secret Ingredient

Life’s messy. Routines are great, but they’re not set in stone. The beauty of a self love routine is that it can evolve as you do. Some weeks, you might need more rest. Other weeks, you might crave movement or social connection. Listen to your intuition and adapt your routine as needed.

Remember: The goal is to show up for yourself, not to check off boxes on a list.